This is why Your Frenemies/Haters will stay Winning in Life

Yesterday, my best friend and I were gossiping about one of my "farewell fre-enemies" and their new updates on Life that was splashed on Social Media.

While we are very serious minded hard-working business women who have goals in Life, we indulge in occasional gossips - good or bad. After-all, it is healthy for the soul. (Duh... go ahead and judge us for it.). You just won't find us hawking gossips Haha.

It turns out that this frenemy is finally getting her Life goals and we were so here for it! Inasmuch as were not friends, I still respect this person & support her work from afar. I understand that supporting one's business does not require friendship nor does friendship requires support for one's business. These tenets must be of free will.

I had decided to cut ties with this person because after simultaneously hurting me, they were also hurting my business & my friends which created a toxic environment and made me the worst version of myself. So one day, I sat myself down and told myself: "Inasmuch as you like this person, you are gonna have to let them go or else you would slowly die - spiritually & mentally." There are times when we need to take desperate measures so that we can save our own souls from hell.

So even though we were no more friends, I had resolved my feelings about them and was able to celebrate their successes when it came around and even recommend them for contracts etc. This morning, I had similar experience where someone heard news about their frenemy winning in Life and they were not having it. The person yelled out about how it will never last and nothing good will ever come to them. Whooaaaa... Chill! 

Now I know that naturally, the human nature is never prone to celebrating people who have hurt us deeply in the past but I will share two reasons why you need to love your enemies and resolve those feelings in your heart.

1. The Earth Has No Feelings

God has provided everything on Earth and in each human that they need to succeed. Do you remember how God said Go and be fruitful and multiply... How he made man to have dominion over everything on Earth from the trees, animals, universe etc? Can you remember how some of Earth's most accomplished heroes and historians were oddly wicked men? There is no amount of curses that you rain upon a man that will prevail against him as long as his own mind is made up to succeed and achieve his/her heart desires. Even the Holy Word forbids us from cursing & swearing. Whether a man is evil or not, the sun and moon will shine upon him, he will dominate the land, have water and food, breathe the very air you breathe and most importantly have new chances every single moment of time and in the eye of every new person he/she meets. Think about the lifetime and billions of multitudes (World Population) of chances he/she has? We talk of Karma and how it deals with our enemies. Get your mind from the gutter haha. Karma is simply the Law of Balance and it happens to everyone besides you can avert it. Karma happens to everybody whether you are evil or not. However, if such a person repents from their evil ways and change their mindset to do better, guess what? Karma is averted. I'm sorry but that is just how the world works. Let's put it this way, If you fall from a Plane freely, the Law of gravity will attack you and pull you hard to fall against the ground but if you suddenly put on a parachute, guess what, you're going to fly and you wont end up smashing your skull against the ground. So let that person go.


2. Redemption

As a Christian, you may have heard of how Christ died for our sins and redeemed us on the Cross. This implies that before our enemies carried out their acts, they have been redeemed and forgiven on the cross! How cool is that? Or uncool? I mean why would Christ just give wicked people free passes and not let them suffer for everything they did to us rewarding them with eternal damnation? I am sure if it worked like that, at the age of 8, we would have been eternally damned and by 18, our parents would be justified to send us to hell for all our teenage tantrums! That means mortality rate would be an all high at 99.9% after-all is there a teenager that never hurt their parents? It's as bad that a killer (say a Serial Killer or Terrorist) who has killed so many people (you probably know one of the victims) will end up in heaven on the last day and you would be asking God "Whhyyyyyyyyyy?! I can't even begin to understand my dear Angels! Why he gotta let this man in here? I can't live here with this guy in my backyard!" God will point to his son and say "Jesus has redeemed him!"


This is simply painting a worse case scenario about the very worse people on Earth much less than the person that hurt you. Do you know what even shakes me more? The fact that if you hold a grudge against your enemies and do not totally resolve your feelings about them and wish them well, God will accuse you of things like "Lowkey Hating, Eye-Rolling Grudges, KMTing, Bad Desires, one-line responses, replying with an ill-mannered 'K' and using mean emojis (Lmao). These wrong things alone without committing other sins can remove your name from the final guest list in Heaven. More so, it can blindside your heart from receiving blessings from the universe.

So Dudeeeeee... let your enemies go! Whether you like it or not, they will succeed. Just like how you equally hurt people in the past and yet, you stay winning everyday! Open your hearts - let them go, love them and celebrate them. 


Every Human is another Humans’ Enemy and Every Successful Enemy is another Humans’ Super Hero. Embrace an Enemy Today!
— I said it.


Tope Hassan, the multi-lingual Global African entrepreneur,  is the Founder of ISOKO AFRICA. She is an African Tourist, a Praticing Yoga Teacher, Advocate for African Brands and Public Speaker. She produces a weekly podcast on Midas Radio, iTunes Podcasts and Podcast for Android. She is dedicated to adding value to Afrca through her organisation, ISOKO Africa by exporting African brands to the global marketplace gaining them recognition and increased sales.

Tope specializes in Compliance & Public Relations to create multi-dimensional business systems where start-ups and multi-national companies can operate fairly in a corrupt free environment and standardized economy. You can follow her daily updates on her handle, @OfficialTopaz on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.